In this Newsletter:
❄️ Winter Coaching Special
🎄Yule Temple "Report" - Including a 🔥 HOT TIP 🔥 for approaching someone new
🧚 2026 Forest Fairy Festival - Flamekeeper Tickets
💦 Morning Erotic Practice on Friday Dec 12
Winter Love Life Mini Package
Hallelujah for cold temps and slowing down! This year, I am really welcoming the stillness and the "pause" that winter brings. It's such a sweet time to reflect and to listen to the depths of our hearts. It's easier to hear my innermost voice when the house is quiet, and fire is flickering on the hearth. In these quiet moments, it's natural for our attention to turn towards our love lives... how is your love life? Do you have the kind of love in your life that your soul most yearns for? I believe that turning towards this question is one of the most meaningful things we can do with our time and energy. Each one of us deserves to give and receive love. And when we learn to love and be loved, it makes our world a better place.
In honor of this slow, contemplative season, I'm offering a special Love Life Coaching mini package for those of you who might like to work with me in December and January... this is a series of three 60 minute sessions, at a significant discount. Just enter the code "WINTER" at checkout to get $200 off.
Yule Temple "Report" - Including a 🔥 HOT TIP 🔥
This past weekend, I was fortunate to finally be able to make it to one of Anna Day's beautiful events. I invited my partner, Max, to join me for the annual Yule Temple. Anna and her team have been hosting regular Temple events for two years now, at a beautiful venue in Whittier, NC. All of their events, rituals, ceremonies are designed to bring people into deeper communion with our essential nature, using the wisdom of the body and the sacredness of connection. Their events are open to people by referral only, and many of them are sex and body positive spaces.
I was excited about Yule Temple for several reasons. I wanted to experience Anna's work, and the growing community of people who attend her events, and I was excited to explore erotically with Max. We are both exhibitionists, and we also both enjoy erotic exploration in group settings. We both felt excited to explore together and to bring our partnered erotic energy into a space with a bunch of strangers!
Before the event, we had conversations about what our intentions were together, what we both wanted to experience, what we felt worried about, and what we felt our boundaries were. When the day came, I was grateful that we arrived early enough to still have time to get settled in our room (there are a limited number of rooms available for people to sleep in, on premises) and take a nap before opening circle started at about 3:15 pm.
As we settled in for the opening circle, I was feeling glad to not be in charge and to be able to relax into the structure that Anna and her team create. I also immediately got the sense that many of the other participants already knew one another (presumably from previous temples), and this created a sense of safety and familiarity, even though I only knew one other participant myself.
We went through introductions - sharing our names and one thing that we feel called to offer to the circle, and another thing that we would like to receive from the circle. We also made agreements, to practice confidentiality (not sharing about other people's experiences without their permission) and to observe the practice of consent - continually attuning and checking in with anyone that we choose to engage with. Then Anna led us through several structured paired exercises, so that we got to interact individually with most of the other people. We got to share various kinds of touch, and practice naming our boundaries and our preferences with each person.
Then, after a break, we reconvened for a body painting ritual, where we were put into groups of three and invited to paint each others bodies with bentonite clay and/or body paint. I enjoyed the intimacy of painting shapes on biceps, foreheads, bellies. When it was my turn to receive, the unexpected coolness of the paint on my skin felt so sexy and soothing, my whole body slowed down and came to attention.
Then we took a break for dinner, followed by some community singing together, and then we went and got on our temple outfits! Max is so great at costumes! Here's how we looked:
Then it was time for "open temple" time. This is often a challenging moment in any erotic gathering. The transition from structured exercises to "free play time" with a room full of half-naked adults can bring up all kinds of feelings. For some, it can reactivate the trauma of middle school dances... "Will I get asked to dance? What if person I approach says 'no'? What will people think about me?" Even as someone who facilitates play parties myself, I still have feelings come up during this transition!
As I noticed myself feeling shy and slightly anxious, I gravitated to the comfort of being in contact with Max's body. We sat together and observed the room. Some people were engaged in play already and others were sitting on the couch. I checked in with myself. I noticed that I was feeling unable to identify much of any desire or sense of excitement about any kind of erotic play. I got curious about this and discovered that I was unconsciously pressuring myself to "be sexy", since I had a sense that the few people in the room who knew me would be expecting that of me, given my role as an erotic educator in our community. As soon as I realized this, I felt annoyed. Fuck that expectation! I am here as a participant! I can show up any way that I want! I don't have to be sexy if I don't feel like it! I felt irritated that my own expectations of myself were really limiting me in that moment. As a way to lean into what I was feeling, I asked Max if he would be willing to hold me down while I had a temper tantrum on the floor. He lovingly did this for me, and as I flailed around and felt his strong body holding me, I could actually begin to feel my authentic erotic energy flow.
As the evening progressed, Max and I got to enjoy two juicy, sexy experiences with two different people. One person approached me, and with another person, I approached them. Both of the conversations began with this very useful approach: 🔥 (HOT TIP HERE - for when you want to approach a new person) 🔥 You don't need to have it all figured out when you approach someone new, just lean into the principle of magnetism. It can be this simple: "Hi! I am noticing that I feel drawn to you, and I don't know exactly what to propose for connection with you, but I'd like to try something together. How do you feel about that?" This is such a soft and easy way to open a conversation! Magnetism is one of the core principles that Anna and her team teach at their events. The magnetic pull will show you who to connect with, and then you can both figure out how to connect (what to do) if the magnetic pull is mutual.
I went to bed that night with a deeply felt sense of erotic abundance and incredibly appreciation for the beautiful humans that we got to play with, and Max's partnership.
If you are interested in attending any of Anna's future events, you will need to reach out to her directly in order to be "vetted" through her process. You can either contact her on WhatsApp (435-773-2683) or email her at annatherootedoracle@gmail.com
The next day, Max and I went for a beautiful hike, and visited three different waterfalls. Time in nature is always helpful for integration!
🧚 Forest Fairy Flamekeeper Tickets
It may be winter, but us Forest Fairies are at work on the Forest Fairy Festival for 2026! This is our second year of this magical eco-erotic event - in a very special holler in Kentucky. There are still some Flamekeeper Tickets available - these are the most discounted tickets ($155 off) for those who are willing to plan ahead and who would like to have the option to influence certain decisions as we plan the festival.
💦 Morning Erotic Practice
I'm leading Morning Erotic Practice this Friday, December 12th. This is a one-hour practice (starting at 8 am Eastern) designed to help you jump start your day, your week and your life by connecting to and celebrating your erotic energy. I have been experiencing a lot of joy with leading this practice lately. I am grateful for the kind souls who share it with me!
Wow, that was a long newsletter!!
If you made it through this whole thing, congratulations! I feel very honored by your support. If you'd like, I welcome you to just reply to this email and let me know and feel free to include any question or curiosity that you have. I'll respond to you personally, with appreciation and gratitude.
With love,
Sarah
