Embodiment Coaching
The style of coaching that I practice is called “embodiment coaching” because we focus on building skills for inhabiting your body more fully. We often work on learning to discern the sensations and feelings of your body as a source of wisdom, and the foundation of intimacy. Together, we will notice what new behaviors, habits, rituals, prayers, beliefs or practices would best serve your embodiment journey, and your personal growth. I also work with the primal forces of eroticism and power dynamics in order to illuminate soulful patterns and truths that are arising in your life.
One of the primary tools I use is the Somatica method. I love this method because we get to create a relationship lab together, and learn what it feels like to be in secure attachment to one another. This method and practice have changed my life - my personal life, my professional life, my spiritual life - and it's a joy to share it with you and to work with you to develop skills that can change your life, too.
Sarah Belzile
To book a session with me, let’s start with a free 15 minute consultation to see if it feels like a good fit for both of us. I look forward to hearing more about you and your journey!
"I have so many notes that I took from our conversation! Sarah said so many things of things that gave me a deep resonance in my heart, my mind, my body and my yoni. My yoni was saying "Yes, yes, listen to her!" I appreciate Sarah's kind listening, beautiful perspective, and the clear and easeful way she communicates. I feel nourished by our connection and empowered to explore the ideas we generated together."
Sarah Belzile
Couples Coaching
I work with couples on deepening intimacy and delving into conflict and repair. We work on sexual issues as well as improving communication and clearing longstanding resentment. I often create private, customized mini-retreats for couples, over the course of a couple of days, for those who would like to experience transformation in their relationship.
We had such a great experience working with Sarah. We have been daily practicing our appreciations and withholds and have also worked with some touch. It has been really awesome! I have deep appreciation for the power of Sarah's work and how it can transform relationships!
"I am in the midst of THE MOST MAGICAL sexual relationship I’ve had IN MY LIFE. It kinda just fell into my lap, like zero effort on my part, I was surprised by it, it just showed up. My deepest gratitude to you and the work we did together. Getting so much clarity on what I wanted and dreamed of truly made this possible. I’m just living into it all with a gorgeous, empathetic, communicative, CREATIVE, spontaneous, deep, honoring, kinky, sweet partner. I’m swimming in oxytocin. I just can’t thank you enough. Transformation!!! It’s real. It’s possible. It’s life affirming. You’re the best!!!!"
"I use the tools I learned from Sarah every day, I work with pleasure and eros in all my life. Sarah is an inspiration in following my own path. Taking risks and letting things land. Where our authenticity is the most precious thing we can give to the world. I think Sarah does this in spades."
"An experience like I’d never known before. Being held. Being turned on. Being scared. Being sad. Being held. Being turned on...But something deeper is happening. It’s healing. Remembering what it feels like to be truly safe in the arms of a woman. In the arms of my partner (for the agreed time). Feeling our bodies independently and together. It was hot and blissful and sometimes challenging, but it never felt wrong. Yes, there are rational explanations for what’s happening. And there is magic too. It feels like a sacred space. A sacred space big enough and safe enough to invite in the profane."
Coaching Frequently Asked Questions
How much does coaching cost?
My usual hourly rate is $200. I primarily work with people through the purchase of a package of sessions, since it often takes time and repetition to develop new skills for intimacy and connection. I also love to work with people and couples in a "mini-retreat" or intensive format, where we do a few deep dive sessions over a period of just a few days.
Since the modality that I use is based on being in relationship with one another, I generally do not do single sessions. However, I make an exception to that and offer a discount for single sessions for folks who are premium members of my site. I am also open to sliding scale arrangements - please reach out to me if you would like to work with me so we can discuss what amount per session would work for you.
Can working with you help me with my intimacy issues?
This is the big question that everyone has when it comes to making an investment in yourself. The results that you experience will depend on many factors. We begin by making sure that we are a good fit - that I understand the issues that you are experiencing, and that you are open to learning new skills for relating. From there, we get to play and practice together, using the many intimacy tools (and games) that I have learned, and probably creating some new ones together. One thing I know for sure is that true intimacy is magic. It's the juice that heals, reconnects and inspires us to live our best lives. Truly the only way to know the answer to this question is for us to play together, and to explore new realms of what's possible for you.
Cuddling
I offer both Cuddle Parties (a group experience) as well as Individual One-On-One Cuddling sessions. I have been trained as both a Cuddle Party Facilitator as well as a professional Cuddlist. Both of these experiences are completely platonic, and focus on asking for what you want and receiving nurturing touch.
For me, cuddling was a profound part of my learning about myself and intimacy because I learned about de-coupling sex and touch. My default belief was that if I was sharing touch with someone, that meant that I also was ready to engage sexually, which of course I now know is NOT AT ALL TRUE. Learning to discern what kind of touch intimacy you most need is a very important skill for experiencing more fulfillment and connection in your life, and cuddling is a great way to improve your skill and range of experiences.
Cuddling Frequently Asked Questions
What do I wear for a cuddling session?
Wear comfortable clothes, like sweatpants or pajamas. Soft, stretchy fabric is usually good. You may change when you arrive at my “cuddle studio”, in the restroom.
What happens if I get turned on?
Arousal is natural and can happen. However, in a cuddling session, if arousal happens, we will change the position or the kind of touch we are sharing, since erotic touch is not part of this service. Arousal is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, we just do not encourage it or allow it to escalate in a session.
How much does cuddling cost?
My rate is $100 per hour, payable in cash or via paypal.
How do I book a session?
In order to book a session, please fill out the form on the Cuddlist website and I will be in touch with you to have an intake phone call and then to book a session after that
Any other things I should know before I arrive at a session?
I conduct sessions in Stanton, KY and Asheville, NC. I will provide directions and more details after we complete the intake process. Please do not wear any perfume, cologne, aftershave or scented product for your session. Please try to arrive as “aroma neutral” as possible.