Preparing for the ultimate orgasm

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⚰️ Lee's End of Life Preparation Course
🔥 Free Coaching with Sage!
😂 A funny poem from Chuck
📅 Upcoming Events - things are filling up quickly!

Death. Let's talk about it.

Sex and death go together like - two siblings?

In Greek Mythology, Thanatos (the god of death) and Eros (the god of sex) are brothers. They are always near one another. Sex is a realm where self-destruction and self-creation intertwine.

In French, the word for orgasm is "la petit mort" - literally meaning "the little death".

What's your relationship with death? How does this relationship effect the way you live?

In the past decade, as my relationship to sexuality has deepened and become less full of fear, my relationship with death has also deepened. Many years ago, I had a dream that I was wrestling with another human who was also me, and she (the other Sarah) held a gun to my head. I was sick of the struggle between us, so I stopped resisting and waited for her to pull the trigger. As I waited, I surrendered to my imminent death and whatever pain would ensue. With my eyes closed, and little hesitation, she pulled the trigger.

As this happened, I crossed some sort of threshold, inwardly. I opened my eyes, only to realize that I was still conscious, but in a different way. I had stopped resisting my struggle with death.

I woke up from this dream with a new relationship to death. Ever since then, I have felt less afraid of it and more curious about what it will be like.

In that spirit, it is my pleasure to whole-heartedly recommend this "End of Life Preparation" six part workshop series that my dear friend and gifted facilitator Lee Warren is offering. There is never an easy time to do this work. But there are people who can make the work easier and Lee is one of those people. I love being in Lee's circles. She creates brave, thoughtful and transformational experiences, using connection, co-creation and deep presence.

"There is no task as urgent for us as to learn daily how to die.” -Rainier Maria Rilke

But wait, there's more! If you sign up for Lee's course, you also get a free ticket to either the April Cuddle Party or the PG-18 Play Party, both on April 6th. Just email me (replying to this email works) to let me know you signed up.

Free Coaching

So while I am promoting unique and powerful offerings from others, I want to tell you about my friend Sage. He is a newly minted Somatica coach who is generously offering his services to non-paying clients. In my conversations with Sage, I have found him to be very well attuned, grounded and knowledgeable. If you're wanting to uplevel your intimacy skills, or are tired of your same old patterns of dating or relationships, please don't hesitate to schedule a discovery call with him. I loved our collaborative conversation about the nature of consent while he was writing this wise and insightful article.